Love and Finances

One of the oldest cliches I've heard is the following phrase.

"You can't buy love"

I really hate this statement. This statement may be true, but it has always implied that love is free.

Love isn't free. It's not even cheap.

I like to look at love as a resource like phone service, groceries, or clothing.

Men want it, and women supply it.


As a little kid, I believed in love at first sight simply because I didn't know any better and thought that real life worked like Disney movies.

Growing up, my dad always told me that a women would just come up to me and a process would start where we just start dating or something.

This doesn't happen. The real world does not work this way.


In order to find love, a man has to

1. Find women
2. Approach women
3. Get women to spend time with him
4. Build attraction
5. Keep attraction going
6. ?????
7. The love probably happens at this stage


Doing this will take time, effort, and money.

Pretty much, just about any exposure to the pursuit of love will cost time/effort/money.

In regards to finding a women, a man may occur expenses like

1. Online dating sites
2. Costs related to night clubs, buying drinks, paying covers
3. Dinners
4. Movies
5. Nicer clothing

In regards to having a girlfriend, a man may occur expenses like
1. More dinners
2. More movies
3. Recreational activities
4. Birthday gifts
5. Fuel costs from extra driving
6. Contraceptives
7. Vacations

Not included is the opportunity cost for a man to spend the time working or expanding his skill set.

In regards to having a family, a man will occur expenses like
1. Extra housing
2. Children
3. Consumer spending


When it comes to love, a man is going to pay for it one way or another. Either with time/money or effort. Most likely both.


However, a woman's love an affection is one of the most important things to a man.
And it is like than when hormones start raging from the age of 13 until a man starts needing help from special colored pills in his late 40's.

While it is very difficult, it is important for a man to decide how much love/affection he wants and how much time/effort/money/resources towards it.

Keep in mind, the less love/affection a man decides to pursue, the more money he will be able to save.
Or the less money he is required to make.

If a man really wants to find love in life, it is going to take work.

This means that finding love involves sacrificing some of your time/freedom.


Maybe you are a pure MGTOW, you don't pursue women at all in order to keep the maximum amount of your time and freedom.

But if you do want to pursue love and affection, I would recommend getting into a very good financial position first and make sure not do blow your resources during the pursuit.

Take the time in your 20's and establish yourself as much as possible. Save up several thousand dollars.
In your 30's, you may have a easier time managing your finances.